The stereotype is that women are interested in relationships, and that only men would be interested in totally casual sex, right? We know that's not true, though. In fact, I was inspired to write this article when a friend told me many of her female friends had owned up to using it. Over the next couple of days, I actually received a lot of posts from women. Or at least, they said they were women. To be honest, I doubted the veracity of the claims.
It didn't take long to realize that almost all the replies I received were scams. The situation is so severe on Craigslist Casual Encounters that posts by real women who are actually seeking hook-ups are often flagged for removal at the slightest cause for suspicion.
The most common scams are "safe dating" websites. An alleged woman will write a man saying she's interested, but that because of the Craigslist-based serial killers and rapists in the news, she needs some extra assurance that it's safe. If you follow the link she provides, the website asks you for your credit card number — y'know, so it can do a background check to make sure you're not a criminal.
One individual tried to get me to buy him or her virtual currency in online games like MapleStory before agreeing to hand over contact information. Yeah, right — moving on! What little luck I'd had so far. The week was half over and I hadn't had a single bite.
I decided I would have to take the initiative, so in addition to posting my own ads, I started responding to every ad from any woman who seemed at all interesting. I cast a wide net in my searches, looking up posts by straight or bisexual women between the ages of 18 and 35 who lived anywhere in Chicagoland — a large metropolitan area that's home to close to five million females.
Most of the women wanted something very specific they couldn't find in their normal lives: Someone to help play out a particular fantasy, someone vastly older than them or someone of another race.
Very few of the women who were advertising seemed to be looking for anything I would consider a "normal encounter. I typically wrote two or three paragraph replies and matched the tone of their own messages, then attached a couple of tasteful photos of myself. I didn't get a single reply from an actual prospect this way.
It turned out that most of the ads were fakes from scammers, and quite a few fell into another category all together. Prostitution is what made Craigslist controversial.
There's technically another section for that — "Adult Services," formerly "Erotic Services" — but that's not the only place you'll find practitioners of the world's oldest profession. The prostitutes of Craigslist speak in code, but it's not a difficult one to learn. They advertise "French lessons" — an odd thing to advertise under "Casual Encounters," don't you think? Well, it's obviously a euphemism for something else.
Many of the ads that weren't from scammers were from prostitutes. The ads are so obvious that it's surprising the euphemisms are effective in fending off law enforcement. Then again, maybe they are law enforcement. Amidst all those failures, I had one near-success. A woman wrote in response to my sweet "cuddling first" ad saying she was in town for only a couple of months, and that she was frustrated she couldn't find a relationship. When she sent her pictures, she looked plain but attractive.
We exchanged a couple of e-mails over the course of two hours, tossing back and forth lists of interests and the like. She made it clear that she wanted to meet up, and while she talked about starting slow, it was clear that it would indeed be a casual encounter. But when I suggested a time to meet — the last message from me before I would reveal myself and back out — there was no reply.
At least, not yet. The next day, she e-mailed me saying she was deeply apologetic and that she'd fallen asleep. She said she'd like to meet up sometime. So yes, there are women on Craigslist. Well, at least one! You've probably guessed by now that the experiences for heterosexual men and women on Craigslist's casual encounters are quite different.
I observed that for every ad a woman posts, there are at least 20 from men. If nothing else, that imbalance ought to alter the experience. To get the female perspective, I did two things: I posted a fake ad as a woman to see what kinds of responses I would get, and I interviewed two women who have had success hooking up on casual encounters in the past.
As for potential suitors, I asked only that they supply a photo and "be attractive and not creepy. There was a five minute delay before my ad appeared, then I started receiving about one response per minute. Most of them were careful to say "I don't do this often. Some sent pictures of themselves naked along with the word "Hi. There were a lot of expressions of sympathy over my fake breakup. I was hearing from men of all types, and it seemed I had my pick of the litter. After about thirty minutes, though, my post was flagged for removal.
I thought I'd made it look legit, but as we learned earlier, folks have good reason to be hawkish about scammers. After the end of my test run with Craigslist casual encounters, I decided to get more insight into the female experience with the site by interviewing two women who said they had successes meeting up with men on Casual Encounters. Their problem was the opposite of mine.
I the end, she started to develop feelings that I didn't reciprocate so we broke it off. I guess that wasn't so brief. If y'all are interested I have 3 more stories that are pretty wild to share if you want to hear them.
I answered an ad that said she was looking for someone to spank her. She was a very pretty lady in her early 40s I was Aww yiss I figured what the hell, even if I don't get laid it will still be fun. Keep in mind that I had never tried anything like this before besides smacking a girls ass during normal sex. My Roomie at the time was into bondage and spanking and stuff so I borrowed a paddle and a whip from him and also brought my studded leather belt.
You know the type with the 3 rows of pyramid studs that were popular with goths and skater kids in the s So we chat and meet up at this little Italian place to have a drink and break the ice. And holy shit she was even hotter in person. So while we were having drinks she told me that she had a boyfriend that she had been with for 4 years but he wouldn't spank her and beat her the way she liked. So I told her I was new at this and she laughed and told me to give it my best shot.
We went across the street to a little cheap hotel and I proceded to spank her until my hand hurt so bad that I couldn't take another swing. But she wanted more. So I got out the belt and hit her with that too. I hit her way harder than I felt comfortable doing but she demanded more and harder so I complied.
Then we worked our way to the paddle and I finally found her limit. So we played with that for a while. Rubbing her pussy while I smacked her really got her going so we did that for a while. I jumped on top of her and did her like I had never done before. I guess she really brought out the extremely rough and dominant and forceful sexual animal inside me because that was a turning point in my sexual style.
Before I was pretty vanilla in the bed. But after her I became a wrist grabbing, pin her down, pull her hair and leave red marks and bruises all over her kind of guy. And apparently many girls like that ALOT. Which I will get to in the next 2 stories.
I fell asleep early. The third one is the least interesting. We met at a bar in midtown and had some drinks and talked and laughed and talked and laughed. Finally we went back to her house and drank some more and got high and had a great time.
Finally when I asked her if she wanted to "go upstairs". She said "oh my god I thought you would never ask!! We fucked like crazy that night and then we started hanging out more and more and actually ended up dating for about 8 months.
I know that one wasn't very interesting but she was an important part of my life. Next story is more like the other 2. I'm a recovering meth addict, going on six years now, and doing that on craigslist was a low point for me.
There's a secret cult of gay dudes who spent all of their days and nights making fake posts to try and give straight guys head and don't seem to respect the boundaries of individual's sexualities and seem to think they can "convert" straight guys or something. There's a specific guy in my area who's actively trying to get into my pants and seems to also know details about me, constantly citing where he's seen me lately as an attempt to scare me into letting him go down on me so he'll go away.
The converting the straight guy thing isn't an uncommon fantasy, but pretending to be girls just to get the reply is still an asshole thing to do.
I can understand the fantasy, but at some point guys like that should probably figure out that it isn't exactly a switch that can be flipped. I mean I wouldn't try to convince a gay guy to let a girl go down on him to turn him bi or straight, or try to convince a gay girl that she should let me eat her out because she "might like it. I used it a couple of times. A few quick blowies, nothing more.
A little over 6 months ago I met up with a girl on campus via craigslist. We exchanged emails and agreed that we wanted to "cuddle. We watched Netflix Bojack Horseman and Arrested Development , ate Chinese food, and banged three times that night we walked all the way to my dorm and back to hers to get condoms. Actually, yesterday was my first experience. I'd been craving a lesbian experience for quite a while, and the girl who messaged me was really literate and cute so I went ahead and met up with her.
We got along pretty well, and she was a lot cuter in real life which was a huge plus. When we got to her place it was a little awkward. I really enjoyed kissing her and cuddling her, but the sex was super lame. It felt kind of gross.
I've never have had sex with a stranger, and to me it just doesn't feel right. I couldn't cum I was so anxious and shy around her. She didn't communicate well, so I had a hard time finding what she liked. I mean, everyone has their own thing.
I went down on her and let me tell you, it was so fucking nasty. I wretched two times but I don't think she noticed. I don't think she cleaned it well, and she shaved it so my mouth and pussy hurt afterward. I have a bigger appreciation for natural hair now.
Anyway, in the end neither of us finished: I really wish we never did anything, and just kissed, cuddled, and talked. I don't know if that would have satisfied her, but it would me. Her lips were so fucking soft, and she was so beautiful.
I could just look into her eyes and brush back her hair all day. I feel really awkward about it now. It was pretty gross. Finger her first before going down, then lean in for a kiss and smell your fingers, that will give you a good indication of the situation down there. Don't make it obvious, it works best in the dark. Sorry she wasn't clean - I'd do like the other person said, do the subtle sniff and if it's iffy then suggesting a quick shower together is a good fix. Received a reply from the same girl on two different posts.
Decided it was worth a shot, and it certainly was. Sucked me off up until the day she got married, and will no longer speak to me now. I guess nobody told either of you that it's still considered cheating when you're engaged to be married To be perfectly honest, we're getting married on Friday. I did it a few times. One of the guys I hooked up with for almost a year. Another a few months. Also where I met my bf. We have been dating for 5 years. I never got a reply from anyone that wasn't a bot wanting me to sign up for some sketchy site.
I'm sure many horny dudes have received a reply with this pic only to have their hopes dashed: I thought it would be fun to give it a shot, and it was pretty miserable. I figured it would be pretty easy being a woman looking for men. Half the replies I got were bots, and of the humans, most just wanted more pictures or disappeared when I mentioned actually meeting. Out of the hundred and fifty or so emails I got in one day, after 48 hours I only had two guys who seemed even remotely serious, one of whom refused to send me any pictures or anything so I had to bail.
When I met up with the other guy at a fast food place he was clearly on drugs, looked like meth or a lot of cocaine. Nothing but crazies, in the sense of literally mentally ill.
But I'm crazy too so it mostly works out. I have used craigslist on average once a month for 6 years for sex. I am a good looking 25 year old dude. Started when i was 19, I said i was 22, had sex with a really sexy 44 year old woman. She was cool and the sex was great. Then i had sex with a student from a local college, and again it was amazing. She was the first asian girl i had ever been with and was absolutely gorgeous.
For about a year after that I used it multiple times a week, I live in a city and there is a ton of people using it. Another aspect is it allows you to find people who have similar kinks as you easier than fetlife or any similar site. I have an absolute thing for "t-girls" and have great luck on there, have even dated one after meeting has happened with a natural girl as well. Those were the only times I was disappointed, every once in a while you get fake pictures and a dude in a wig, which is creepy but not scary.
No one has ever been scary or dangerous, although the act of all this obviously is. I must have lucked out never getting majorly sick or hurt by anyone. One of my first encounters was with an alleged MMA fighter who claimed that having a lot of sex the night before was the best way he could shake off pre fight jitters.
Holy shit we fucked for like 2 hours the first time and at least 2 maybe more the second time. He was really interesting and down to earth. We talked about how beautiful life can be and how important it is to be open to life's experiences. He was some kind of black middle eastern I don't know, I'm white like rice. We talked a lot about how we wished more people were of the mindset that we are all one people, we are all gods children and there is nothing that separates us other than our own lack of trust and inability to forget our differences.
We fooled around 1 more time a few weeks later. He was the first man in my life to give me an orgasm every time we hooked up, he still is the only person I have genuinely simultaneously climaxed with. I met another guy. We dated for two years He was a control freak, extremely insecure and kind of a pedophile..